Caregivers have hearts as big as the moon, as filled with compassion as the ocean of its water. When we are in our groove, nothing can stop up from being our best selves, but the truth is something always eventually stops us- at least for a little while.
Caregivers arrive at this “Wit’s End” when they are stressed. Sometimes we see it coming a mile away; other times, it suddenly overcomes us leaving us to feel vulnerable, exhausted, and oh so guilty that we now must invest time taking care of ourselves rather than those we serve. It is difficult for caregivers to put their health first, but without doing so, we become run down faster than a second grader’s pencil point, and in that grumpy, stressed-out state, how are we to help those to whom we provide care?
We can better understand stressors when we track our trigger points. With the world’s current situation, the coronavirus pandemic-and the many snarls of problems it has created- is a leading cause of stress among caregivers. Other common triggers are limited downtime, emotional or physical exhaustion, lack of sleep, and lack of support. Once a caregiver has a better understanding of what is causing the stress, he or she can customize a plan to relieve it. The following are some coping strategies to help in dealing with stress.
Get a support system in place. Talk therapy is important, so is physical support. Nurses, care managers, physicians, clergy, friends and family members can offer assistance in both these areas. People care about you- let them help!
Focus on what you can do, not what you cannot. We can only do so much. Trust that you are giving your senior loved one your 100% and that you are thoughtful about every decision and action you are doing on their behalf. No one can be a “perfect” caregiver but believe that you are doing the best you can.
Get sleep. Get exercise. It’s easy to say but harder to accomplish. Make sleep a priority, and if you have trouble falling asleep, develop a calming bedtime routine, or consider talking to your physician. Exercise in a way that will be consistent for you. Schedule a morning walk each day, or sign up for a virtual yoga class. Dance in your living room, move a rake across your yard- do any exercise that you enjoy, and that gets your body moving.
Don’t lose your identity. If you love movies but haven’t watched one in months, commit to viewing a flick this weekend. If you once were a social butterfly, but are now a hermit, reach out to your friends and set up a way to meet online. Blow the dust off your camera and snap a few photos, or finish that sewing project you abandoned. Make a point of taking time to be YOU.
If you are alone in your caregiving journey and looking for support, At Home Senior Care can help. Call us at 802.768.8595.
